Actually, it is really not that crazy.. Yes, I know life can sometimes feel incredible hard to master and when you try to manage it, suddenly everyone knows the best ways to live. The whole web is full of advises like:
‘The 10 best ways to master …’, or ‘The 3 habit rule to …’ or ‘6 steps for …’ and ‘9 simple things to …’ and ‘Follow this to get the most out of … ‘ or ‘5 Tips to …’ and ‘5-4-3-2-1 exercise for …’
Aren’t you sick of this phrases?
Well, I am.
All they give you is: Rules. Things like: Do this, but don’t do that. Behave like this but not like that and if you want to be successful say this not that. Uff..
I think, it is not about giving you rules you have to follow. We already see in children: rules don’t work! What works is to empower each individual and create an understanding so that in the end you do ‘things’ because you want to and not because you get told to. I really believe in us humans but, you have to believe too. So that, at some point we are all able to create our own life, in exactly the way we want it.
“It is about educating, teaching and understanding, not about giving rules ‘how to live your life’.. this last decision is really just your own!”
So, I have this 4 things to share for the beginning:
1. Your life. Your control. 100%
Isn’t life actually pretty simple in the end? Be honest. Lets brake it down:
‘You are born and you die’.
That is the basic.
The time in-between birth and death you are alive. You can decide to finish your life at any point or you decide to live it until life decides it to end. Thats all. It is your life, your actions your words, your full control. (That is the fact given that you are over 18 years old).
.. Yes, this still applies for horrible situations, like for eg. if you are badly controlled by people around you.., in the end, it is still you inside your body, right? Never forget that. It is still you who decides what to say or what to do. Sometimes, people forget that and this can be very dangerous.
So, make sure you always remember Nr. 1: It is your life and your control: 100%.
2. Don’t let anyone scare you OR TELL YOU how to live
(Remember Nr.1)
Look: Not many things kill you right away!
… In these times (we are living in the year 2026), People tend to scare others to make them follow, to keep them silent or to have them behave in a certain way (I am very honest here and: I hate that). I believe in freedom and I think each of you has the right to feel free.
Let’s brake it down again:
‘As long as you don’t hurt anyone (including yourself), you can do whatever you want! No need to follow anyone‘.
Furthermore:
There is no need to become the happiest person on this planet. It is OK to be silent and calm. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to feel happy. Let it come naturally. Trust me. Calm down. Re -fucking- lax.
To clarify:
I don’t mean to say, don’t do things! Of course it is important to do something. Every animal you see does something, constantly and consistently. Yes, sleeping is also A THING. (We spend about one-third of our lives sleeping, it is not lazy, it is not a problem). It is because we are designed to sleep and be awake, like every other animal on this planet as well. Sleep is very important to be a good human. Many people are sleep deprived without even knowing it. (Read more about sleep and the science behind it here: Body & Mind )
For now only understand:
Alright, still point 3 and 4 to make. Yes, I know, I am creating more context even tho I am saying we have enough. But I just think it is too much bullshit and to little knowledge so with this 4 things in mind, I am aiming to help to understand, see and overlook.
So, let’s jump into it:
3. Never stop educating yourself
Do you understand how smart you are?
Yes you! …and me, and your neighbour!
Yes, smart.
There are different kinds of being smart, actually there are so many types of being smart! And you know what? Each of them is smart! BECAUSE each of us has their own way of being smart.
Accept it.
No, you don’t believe me? You think there is only one way to be smart? Ok (… don’t be hard on yourself for “IUK” Important Unknown Knowledge) but lets change it, let me give you an idea, look:
DIFFERENT WAYS OF BEING SMART:
(I can find more if you challenge me but I am confident, the following will open your eyes already)
- Adaptability smart, Aesthetic smart, Analytical smart, Attention-management smart, Behavioral smart, Bias-aware smart, Big-picture smart, Bodily-awareness smart, Bodily-kinesthetic smart, Brain-based smart, Boundary-setting smart, Business smart, Business-strategy smart, Cognitive-flexibility smart, Communication smart, Conceptual smart, Contextual smart, Creative smart, Critical-thinking smart, Cultural smart, Decision-making smart, Design smart, Digital smart, Emotional smart, Empathic smart, Entrepreneurial smart, Environmental smart, Ethical-reasoning smart, Existential smart, Expressive smart, Financial smart, Imaginative smart, Information smart, Innovative smart, Interpersonal smart, Intrapersonal smart, Intuitive smart, Judgment smart, Learning smart, Leadership smart, Linguistic smart, Logical smart, Mathematical smart, Media smart, Metacognitive smart, Moral smart, Musical smart, Naturalistic smart, Organizational smart, Pattern-recognition smart, Performance smart, Philosophical smart, Practical smart, Problem-solving smart, Psychological smart, Rhetorical smart, Risk-assessment smart, Scientific-thinking smart, Self-regulation smart, Sense-making smart, Social smart, Spatial smart, Strategic smart, Systems-thinking smart, Tactical smart, Teaching smart, Technical smart, Technological-literacy smart, Temporal smart, Theoretical smart, Time-management smart, Tolerance smart, Translational smart, Value-based smart, Visionary smart, Visual smart, Vocational smart, Wellbeing smart, Willpower smart, Wisdom-oriented smart, Work-ethic smart
Do you get the idea?
We are more than 8.000.000.000 (Eight Million) people living on this Planet and, of course there is not only 1 way to be smart!
It is the same that, there is not only 1 type of carrot out there!
… even tho many people probably know the orange carrot. It is not the ONLY carrot growing (just to give you a reference: “There are over 500 distinct varieties of the cultivated carrot worldwide” (source: https://carrots/). So, trust me, you are smart!
Being smart also means to understand that everyone else is smart as well and to accept that no one can ever know everything and that this is: FINE.
Many of us forget to educate themselves after school… even tho this is somehow actually only the start, because from this point onwards… you educate yourself in what YOU want and whatever you feel attracted to.. there are no limits! Learn, grow and age. It feels good. It’s important. You have a brain, use it! You are a personality, create it! (Simply find out which smart is yours..)
Ready for the last one? Alright, lets go:
4. Share (-ing is caring)
‘The things you are smart about. It is important to share them!‘
“With who? And why?”
Mh, you can share it with your neighbour?
OR: With your mum, dad, siblings friends, people in shops, with people you work, people you meet, people on the street, people online, nature or other animals.
It is your choice (again) with who you share, just make sure you don’t forget it!
Why?
Because, we NEED ALL different types of being smart! We need every single brain, Like we need all the different types of carrots! If we forget about this, about being special.. we might one day, end up with only 1 typ of carrot left or 1 type of human!!!!!!!!!!
It is crucially important to keep every individual alive and therefore continue learning, growing and sharing your very own mind!
No need to share with the whole world, no need to write a blog. Simply share with the people around you. Trust me, everyone can give you something back.
Of course, you will meet people with similar knowledge or interests because even within 1 specific type of being smart, there are different brains and therefore different knowledges about it. (Like: The carrots of one species (lets take the orange one) might look all the same at first but once you look closely, you see, they are all different! In their very own way! Thats important, to understand and to acknowledge as well.)
Sharing is not only about physical things like food, water, shelter or money, it is also about knowledge, thoughts, ideas, care and love. There are things you can share, without owning or giving away something materialistic.
Personal last note:
I truly believe that we can make this world amazing and that each of us has the power to be great! Guess what: If you don’t harm anyone (including yourself) and you share your knowledge (with love) to others around you, you are already amazing! And yes: Thats enough for a human life! That is simply enough.
If you struggle feel free to reach out to me!
I’d love to listen to you (r why)!
All the best!,
W. J.