Do you feel like this?
Well, there are 2 things you can do in this situation. 1. You leave the doors closed (like in the picture) or 2. You open the doors.
Keep in mind, if you don’t open the doors yourself, your doors can always be opened by another person coming by or through a shocking event (for e.g. an earthquake, a fire or a big animal like an elephant walking in your room).
All I want to say is, leaving the doors closed and looking at the bowls being stuck like this (because you are scared what happens when you open them..) is definitely not the best (long term) option.
Do you understandm that if you do not open this doors nothing can change. Things can not break but you can also not repair them..
You can not fix what is not broken
Only once you open the door, you can start to deal with the consequences.
What are you scared of? The broken pieces, the noise when they break or are you just to lazy to clean it up..?
Well look, once you are brave enough to open this doors, it might be that not all of them will fall. And if they all fall, maybe not all of them will break! Or maybe some of them are, in the end, super easy to repair! Maybe the fact that they break helps you also to finally part with some of them? (*Of course a bowl doesn’t have to break in order to part with it, but when it breaks we often see more clearly how much we want to keep it or whether it is also ok for us to live without it.)
It can be, that you will have bowls which broke, but you don’t want to repair and also not give them away. Thats fine too. You can keep the pieces as long as you want. You can for example use them as decoration in your front yard or you could make a mosaic out of them..
If you want, you can keep them for the rest of your life!
Who cares?
Broken porcelain pieces.. They don’t have much value for anybody except you.. Still, if someone is interested, they can ask you about the broken pieces and then you can tell them about it or not. However you want, you decide ( 100% ).
Of course you can also get rid of the bowls that break. You can give them away or dispose them somewhere else. Also that, you decide.
Of course, you don’t have to tell anyone that you will open your cupboard or once you did, how many bowls broke. Only please, when you don’t know what to do with the broken porcelain pieces or how to glue broken bowls back together, get help. Be aware that broken porcelain can be sharp and that you could cut yourself. Also consider that, depending on how long the doors were closed, the plank in the cupboard may be rotten as well, which would mean that also the cupboard needs fixing and if you don’t know how to repair a cupboard or the bowls, you will look stupid with all the broken shit…
Luckily, there are people out there who know about bowls and cupboards! People who can give you advice and help you to fix stuff up again!
Yes, I can imagine you asking now:
“What if I want to do it all by myself and what if I don’t want to fix the bowls? What if I just put everything in my car and drive it to the dump?”
Yes, this is possible as well. You can throw them all away and on your way back from the dump you can buy new bowls and maybe also a new cupboard, then you put it in the same place and it should be fixed. Only keep in mind that, sometimes getting rid of things is more work than fixing them up again and that you need more money to buy everything new. But, if you only choose to throw it away becaue you don’t know how to repair it and you don’t want to ask for help. I really suggest to learn it! There is enough knowledge for it out there. Because, imagine it happens again..You need to buy everything new again, in this way you, you only create trash and you cant help others to repair bowls or cupboards if you will be asked for help this one day..
Maybe it makes you feel uncomfortable that you can not do it yourself? Well I tell you, there are people in this world who love fixing things back up! And I am sure, if you tell them about your bowls and your cupboard they are happy to help you! You are not alone, no need to be embarrassed. Trust me, almost everyone has this situation at least once in their lifetime.
Do you see it a little clearer by now? Do you understand that, once you find yourself in this situation, it is the best to take care of it as soon as you can?
When you do this, it will make you be more careful and when you visit other homes, you take bowls out of their cupboards more carefully. You know, it could be that these bowls already broke once..
And when you see a crack you can ask, or maybe, over a cup of tea, the person will tell you about it: “You know, the bowl you are holding there, once it was broken, but I repaired it” This is for example a very good way to learn, because not every bowl is repaired the same way. The more bowls you see break, the wiser you become. In the end, you can repair them all.
Imagine how nice it will look when everything is fixed. Some of the bowls will serve to feed you again and some will be repurposed and you will only look at them from a distance. Look, it is possible that you have bowls which will never be whole again, even if you want it. This, my love, is called: “life”… we do not have everything under control and yet, more than we think.
Breaking something is one thing. Repairing it is another.
I hope you understand that not acting is only a short term solution and that, in the end, you are the person who has to take action. And never, really never, be afraid to ask (about everything!).
We can only grow if we learn and only learn if we ask.
The bowls are only metaphors, I assume you are smart enough to understand this.
With the best of luck,
Wanda